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Daddy's Girl's Guilty As Hell
The Lonely Legacy of Catholic Guilt:
A Woman's Soul Imprisoned
First time publishing in US on Amazon Kindle in the Kindle Store! First time publishing in Ireland as a Digital eBook. Available from the suZenYoga.com shop.

Get rid of your Guilt — Forever!

November 26, 2011

By Dr. Susan Corso

This review is from: Daddy’s Girl’s Guilty as Hell (Kindle Edition)

What a remarkable book Susan Ni Rahilly has written about her odyssey through her past in the Catholic Church (caps intentional). Daddy’s Girl’s Guilty As Hell–The Lonely Legacy of Catholic Guilt: A Woman’s Soul Imprisoned is newly out on Kindle.

One of the things I’ve noticed in my counseling practice lately is that Catholicism, or as Ms. Ni Rahilly would write: catholicism, is (I just had to go back and change the spellcheck capital C to a small c!) … catholicism is up for contemplation in the Universe. Person after person coming to me has either a catholic past in this lifetime or another. Particularly women.

That should come as no surprise to anyone in tune with spiritual life these days, but what is a shocker is the depth to which the catholic religion sinks its women. That is what Ms. Ni Rahilly’s book addresses–in spades.

I want to be very clear here: the major legacy of catholic guilt is loneliness. Bone-aching, dense, probably can’t-be-gotten-any-other-way loneliness.

What the church has systematically done with its members, especially female, but also male (and she’s about to start the men’s version of the same book) is to isolate them so effectively, and make them so other-referred [vis-à-vis self-referred], that it is impossible for them to experience their own sovereignty or their own souls. There’s no other word for it–it’s agony–or, as the Catholics would say, purgatory. Take your pick.

She writes: “I believe that part of being catholic is to have inherited patterns; ways of being
and thinking and behaving. Generation after generation of catholics have passed these down to us. The way we behave has been passed on to us, as though it were imprinted in our genes, our DNA structure. catholic ways have been passed on without question, and accepted without question, affecting our lives today.

“My father passed the catholic way of being on to me.

“I had no choice but to accept it if I wanted to be accepted in the family.”

It was this acceptance she so craved, and did not ever get because the church set her up. She could never, ever be the good girl she was asked to be. She could never be “holy enough.”

How’s this for a litany of what was wrong with our author growing up?

“All this stuff I had to be guilty about included being born, being female, being bad, being good, being sad, being happy, being without, trying to get and have things in my life, being selfish, thinking too much about myself, not thinking about other people enough–often it didn’t seem to
matter what I did, as it turned out not to be good enough anyway and I would just end up feeling bad about being me.”

Is it any wonder–thinking thoughts like these, and having nowhere outside the system to get a reality check–that our intrepid author had a nervous breakdown in order to wake up? What else is a soul to do?!

Now look at the author’s picture. Is it not the picture of a beautiful, healthy, sovereign soul? Doesn’t she look like someone who knows her own mind? Goes out into the world to get what she wants? Asks and receives?

It wasn’t always this way.

Ms. Ni Rahilly’s bio on her Amazon page reads in part:

“Susan Ni Rahilly is a published author, Meditation and Hatha Yoga Teacher, founder of suZenyoga. Susan lives in West Cork where she writes and teaches. Her teaching typically draws on breathwork in deep Hatha practice, as well as Raja Yoga (the Yoga of Meditation).”

Her Self was hard-won, and well worth it. She lived through her father’s mentally ill abuse, the death of a childhood friend, myriad unhappy relationships, and her own collapse.

Her bio goes on:

“Susan is currently planning a revised edition of Daddy’s Girl’s Guilty As Hell to include men’s experiences of guilt, and a more universal experience of the effects of inherited guilt outside the Catholic religion. Susan says: “I’ve been being asked for years now to write this update–in fact my own brother was the first to ask me when the “mens'” book would be coming out….”

Susan Ni Rahilly has written a template for anyone recovering from catholicism, or religiosity of any kind. When you read Daddy’s Girl’s [or Boy’s], prepare to be transformed.

There’s more information at this link: http://suzenyoga.com/cafe_books.html

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Gilt-edged revelation about not just Catholic guilt!

November 20, 2011
This review is from: Daddy’s Girl’s Guilty as Hell: The Lonely Legacy of Catholic Guilt – A Woman’s Soul Imprisoned

This exposé of religious guilt through the experiences of several women, including the author, struck a deep chord with me even though I am not Catholic.

Particularly in the early parts of the book, I found a very clear and comprehensive description of what guilt is and its effects in terms of the lowering of self-esteem and loss of power which women in particular can experience. Vividly portrayed is the vicious circle in which the ‘guilty party’ can never be right or good enough, and which may result in the ill-health or depression of repressed unhappiness, pain and anger. At the very least, women imprisoned by such guilt may not be able to make healthy decisions or life choices – or feel guilty if they do!

This exposition is put across in the intimately engaging style of the author, Susan ni Rahilly. This is definitely a book written from the heart – but not without thought and formulation. The only part of the book which lost me a bit was the section on the Catholic church, which seemed less well written than the rest, or simply more distanced from me because it was less personal.

Perhaps that is because I am not Catholic, but don’t dismiss the book if you are not! The insidiousness of educated guilt is widespread. If you are a woman, and particularly one who has suffered from lack of self esteem or depression and is not sure why, this book may shed light on the reason – and show light at the end of the tunnel!

Essentially a book full of hope, I learnt a lot from the analysis it contained and the accessible anecdotal style. Everything is clearly explained. Don’t expect all the answers though. The book is a springboard for your own leap. Hopefully the net will appear! And maybe a second book on how to jump safely!

Daddy’s Girl’s Guilty As Hell Amazon Kindle e-book Launch

November 3, 2011

Daddy’s Girl’s Guilty As Hell

The lonely legacy of CATHOLIC GUILT: A Woman’s Soul Imprisoned

Susan Ni Rahilly: suZenYoga: 8.99 euro

Amazon Kindle Digital eBook 185 pages

ISBN 09535667-1-4: Publication Date: November 18th 2011

Publishing for the first time in the USA on Amazon Kindle e-books. Published for the first time in Ireland and available as a digital eBook from the suZenYoga.com website. (Originally published in the UK April 2001).

Compelling, sensitive and honest, Daddy’s Girl’s Guilty As Hell is a controversial book in which Susan Ni Rahilly bravely questions one of the biggest institutions in the world. “Its been 10 years since I finshed writing this book and I think the time is now right to release it in Ireland. I hope it helps women cope with these tense and confusing times – bringing some hope to calm all the fears and anxiety of our current climate.”

DON’T SHOOT THE MESSENGER, says Susan. I know it’s a controversial book, she says, just because it’s Catholic Guilt it’s controversial. But it’s a sign of the times that we deal with issues like this now – both the power of the media and publishing have helped enormously in changing our awareness and bringing issues like this to light. “I know my book will cause debate and some of it is pretty hard to digest, especially spiritual damage – which is anything done in the name of God – but this is my true story and the hard and touching truths of many other Catholic women. We’ve had no choice but to challenge the way we were brought up, in the Catholic way of fear and guilt. But don’t forget if you take away the taboo stuff about religion and God, and the power of the Church, Guilt is just a health issue – and it needs healing.”

The author simply states that the Catholic institution is no different from other large organisations. It suffers from corruption, misuse of power, distorted teaching and the Catholic authority should take responsibility and acknowledge the damage it has done. Susan Ni Rahilly reveals countless shocking and deeply disturbing examples of how sickness pervades the Catholic institution.

Strong, sensitive, compassionate and funny, this vivacious author writes with honesty and voyeuristic insight into her own abusive childhood, her many illnesses, broken relationships, financial hardship and finally a nervous breakdown at the age of 40. In telling her own story and documenting those of other Catholic women, she picks apart the Catholic values which get deeply ingrained in childhood – and exposes the effects of the Catholic way of life.

“It’s good for the soul to challenge and see the illusion and delusion in the myths you were brought up with – to grow, a soul needs to rebel and reject outdated rules – such as ‘Honour Thy Father . . .’ It’s very damaging to expect children to be respectful of their families when there’s violence in the house. There was nobody to talk to about abuse at home, which was quite normal in the large Catholic families in my parish in Yorkshire. The teachers at school were mostly nuns who didn’t have any experience of life. They were so busy trying to save our souls that they could not see what we were suffering.”

Many women’s lives have been severely limited as a result of living with guilt and conforming to Catholic expectations. “When you’re born guilty you end up being guilty about being alive and being yourself – you might just as well put your soul in a prison cage and throw away the key – because your life is only half-lived” says Susan.

“Treat a child like a criminal and you’ll reap what you sow – tell someone they’re guilty from the moment they’re born and you get people who grow up to have no confidence in themselves. And very low self-esteem. The bottom line is you have no chance of being a healthy and energetic woman living a life full of potential if you’re bearing the heavy burdens of other people’s guilt.”

Susan Ni Rahilly offers realistic and sensible advice to enable women to reach their potentials. The messages in this book are powerful and life changing. With searing insight Susan writes in an unashamedly direct and conversational style; at times hilarious; at times deadly serious. Daddy’s Girl’s Guilty as Hell reads like a bodice-ripper as she takes her readers on a soul-baring, roller-coaster ride through the myths, misunderstandings and damaging messages of the Catholic Way – to appreciating the miracle of having a woman’s soul.

This is a book the reader will not be able to put down as she embarks upon a journey from the lonely legacy of Catholic Guilt towards liberation.